
Helpful Hints: Do
you remember those family trips to grandpa's house as a kid? Can you
picture grandpa watching his favorite sporting event as the family meal was
ready? Grandma would call for everyone to sit down to the table after long
preparations and then what would grandpa do? "WHAT???? or JUST A MINUTE!".
Ten minutes later grandpa would still be watching the game and the family
would still be trying to get him to the table. One of the things that teens
need is not only a good ear, but a responsive ear. In today's terms we call
this an active listener. Many good parents get in the habit of doing the
grandpa response when their teen comes to talk about something. From the
example above, grandpa probably hears the words, but his attention and
response say something completely different. When we don't stop and give
teens the attention needed (even for the small things), it sends a message.
Unfortunately, it is the wrong type of message. Yes, we as parents are not
perfect and to top it off, we normally have too much to do and not enough
time to do it. However, when your teen comes to you, this is not the time
to be multi-tasking. What happens is after several encounters of the parent
being more focused on their job or chores, the teen gets the impression that
there is a lack of concern for them or what they are asking. The teen then
says to themselves, "Well, mom/dad is not listening, I will just go to
someone who does". That is where it gets a little dangerous. It is usually
a noteworthy moment to get them to speak sometimes, but if one of those
times it is a very serious matter, it matters where the advice or direction
comes from. Teens need attention and their voices do matter, but, more
importantly, they need the right guidance from the right ear.
Trends:
I remember an
old song with the line "What the world needs now is love, sweet love..." and
it brings home the point of the trend topic very well. I have witnessed a
variety of teen behavior in my time on this earth and having been a teen
myself (although hard to believe for some), I have noticed a general
degradation of the heart in the teen population. This is not to say that
teens don't have feelings, but instead, a numbing in their daily interaction
during school, church or even free time. For example, ask a teen what they
feel about our government and see their reaction. One online survey taken
said that most teens would not even be interested in the job of president or
in politics. If most of the teens don't want to get involved in politics,
what choices will we have for candidates will we have in the future. Teen
numbness is not in just politics. Take a look at the family, social
relationships and, yes, church. What is causing this lack of feeling?
Well, look at the moral degradation in society today. The family unit is
not the mom & dad foundation that should exist. Teens have been in the
middle of angry households so long that it drains them of their hopes and
feelings. Teens watch corruption on the television. They see gays being a
"normal" part of society and even their schools. They see sex as just
another casual activity done at their leisure. They have been abused,
uncared & unloved. The sins of the world wear on them. As a result,
unhappiness becomes common and passions are extinguished. Which leaves the
church in a very difficult situation. With an increasingly immoral and
emotionless teen society, the church is seeing less repentant and teachable
teens. I believe that there is a huge link between family & morality of
society as it relates to teen numbness. As a Christian body it is time to
make a stand in society with moral issues (publically) & to put more of a
priority on keeping healthy families together. Teens claim that they have
seen/heard it all, but maybe what they are lacking a lot of is genuine
concern & love for them as played out in an example. It says in Titus
2:6-8, "Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In
everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show
integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so
that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to
say about us."
A Look Back: If
it seemed like the summer flew by, I would have to agree with you. And, if
you thought I was constantly going, attending or doing, you were right
again. If you got to talk with me this past month in any length apart from
events, you found a rare spot. With school starting back, the game
room finishing for the summer, whitewater rafting, the last mystery
destination for the summer and the yard sale, I was trying to not come apart
at the seems. The whitewater rafting trip, I believe, was one of our better
trips this year. If your family ever gets the opportunity, I would
encourage you to get out to Noah's Ark. Noah's Ark Rafting was a great
experience for our group with good Christian values to boot. And, as a
bonus, we did not lose anyone! Our last mystery destination for the year
was out at the park off of Deerwood. There were many twists and turns in
this last mystery night and we had a great group time together, message and
all (Oh YEAH!). Our theme for that evening focused around lying. The game
room ended for the summer that same day of the mystery destination and we
did well with this outreach for this year. There were several visitors that
passed through our doors, which received our group information. It was a
great time for fellowship and talk. We look forward to next year! For
those that are worried, I have put some game room days on the calendar
during some of the holiday or "non-student" contact days. Hopefully with
school in session, we will have some new friends for this ministry during
the school year. Oh, and did I mention a game room tournament? (more to
come on that) The last thing in August was our Yard Sale to raise some
needed funds for youth events. God really blessed us both times this year
and again, many thanks go to the volunteers and donors for this event. We
were able to get over $500 just from this last sale. This will go a long
way to helping the youth department out and I believe you may just see this
come back next year!
Approaching Academics:
Sunday Munch: HS
- Line of Sight (also new Fuel 2 & action days)
(Romans/Daniel/Proverbs) MS - A World
Apart
Tuesday Acting Up - "How do you spell belief"
"The Pewgitive"
"The
Big Picture"
September Wednesday
Aftershock - Dig In (continued)- from Cook Communications
What’s coming
up: RANDOM - Saturday,
Sept 8 Meet at 7 pm @ church
Theme: Beach Party Cost: FREE
Location: Random
(will disclose locations to parents
if asked)
Youth Council Mtg - Saturday, Sept 22 at
10 am/ church
September
NO COST/Newbies welcome
Lgmt Rec. Center - Saturday, Sept 22 Meet
at 6 pm @ church
(6 - 10 pm)
Cost: $3.50 Students/$4.00 Adults
Game
Room - None scheduled for September
Recognition/Honors: Hazel
Myers & Bethany Haggerott led the visitor challenge for July/Aug.
Great job
ladies!!
Something
New: We have ordered some materials for Wednesdays and we will be
trying some
new materials out for some
Sundays as well. The
Wednesday material is
called Revolution. Revolution is a series from BluefishTV
that is funny,
but
also very
engaging. This will be a topical study. On some Sundays we will be
in a series called Fuel. Fuel is a DVD
curriculum we will do on some random Sundays to
see interest. This is a newer series from Lifeway.
The last new item is the Fall-in-Line Plan for this season. I wrote
about this
in the church newsletter, but it will focus on
discipleship, weekly contacts, new
faces, disciple/pupil teams, encouragement,
success celebrations, welcoming
visitors (buddy for the day) & respecting
teaching times for the benefit of
everyone. If you would like to know more or
have any questions, please see
me.
Reminder:
Snack & Drink sales
have been a blessing to our Game Room, I would like the adults to know that
this is open to them as well.
(Please be aware though until we have the means to obtain a lockable refridgerator, the
drinks will be warm on non-Game Room
days)
As always, contact me
if you have any questions, comments or concerns. It is a pleasure to serve
you and your teens!
Mark Garland
Youth Minister, Longs Peak Church
1601 Collyer St
Longmont, CO 80501
303-776-8521 Church
970-443-5170 Cell
303-776-0407 Fax